Suggestion:
Make the net a revolve:
Turn revolve into a softbody with a duplicate as goal.
Mmake the surface live then draw the netting on the surface with curves.
Turn on contruction history
Then extrude a profile on the curves you drew.
This way you have a net made of geomtry that is driven by the softbody cylinder. This would much easier to control than making netting geomtry and than making the netting a softbody.