Thanks for the suggestions, I'm learning step by step using digitaltutors as a base how to use all the tools within Maya...
The answer to your question is simple: Softimage has all the tools I always wanted and the workflow is absolutely brilliant.
In the last years Softimage had so many improvements that made for me the perfect software to use, while I always find tedious Max ( which I used for 5 years before switching to Softimage )...right now, as far as I can tell, AD is aiming to create a ICE-like tool inside Maya, which probably will be released in the next 2-3 years...lets hope for the best...
I'm not aiming to be a TD and I know that build tools within your 3d app would be a great benefit, but honestly inside Softimage I always found what I was looking for without any needs for scripting
I never used Maya for a simple reason: doing my research and talking with people everyone always told me that scripting is required in order to build what you're looking for, and the animation workflow could be quite painfull...I was looking for a software with all the necessary tools I wanted and Softimage had everything I always wanted